Adelante! Thoughts on the USJR scandal

I had personal doubts commenting about this scandal involving a student from a known catholic school, University of San Jose-Recoletos. (I even debated with myself with the thought of not mentioning the school but since it has made its way to the national news, I forgave myself) Further, I might be tagged as someone who wants to boost my stats or just another opinionated blogger whose overflowing with self-proclaimed ‘wisdom’.

Call me anything you want, this is my blog. :p

Mag-bisaya unta ko. But then, for the sake of my foreign followers, I am English to me. hahaha  Got that?

Enough with the intro!

Warning: This is badly written. Cross the line below at your own risk.

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Here’s the story: The Sex scandal I am talking about involves a USJR student in uniform having some intense sexual action with her boyfriend on cam. Two consenting teenagers exploring their bodies.

In Uniform. With Consent.

The problem with the video (which I haven’t watched in full) is the wearing of the uniform (complete with school ID!). The act was amplified in all the different angles of it. Would it make to the national news if the girl did not wear that cloth? Probably NO.  It would just be another porn video online. You see, you [partly] represent the institution you belong by wearing that uniform.

Uniformity is next to stereotype-y.

But don’t get me wrong! Whether or not you are in uniform, you should never do that kids. All I want to say is, you carry a responsibility of honoring the institution because you are in uniform. Just as other professions like policemen, teachers, doctors, nurses, etc. Change clothes. Respect it.

The school will resume wearing their uniform next week as announced. To let the stir settle a bit, they have suspended it for a time. It was to protect its students from the casual stare they get from wearing that uniform and being mocked by some arrogant people, some even trending the joke “i-USJR mo ako!” (roughly implying ‘do it to me’).

So yeah, those green skirts and white long sleeves are back with much greater honor. Stains can be easily washed off right? And sometimes we need a little bleaching. but still, it’s a learning experience to be careful not to stain it again.

Adelante! (Forward!), USJR shouts!

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Rumors spread like wild fire. The Girl is expelled. The Girl committed suicide. The Girl is migrating to the states. The video was uploaded as a blackmail after the girl broke up with the guy. The phone was snatched and the snatcher uploaded it.

Among all these, I can confirm that the girl is allowed to graduate for as long as she complies with the requirements. And that she is alive.

Oh, it is very disappointing how people create stories. How awful has the effect of nighttime dramas twisted their minds?  From reading too much cheap novels? Well, it only proves how primitive our minds are. Sex is still an easy bait.

Right now, as to the legal aspects of this case would cover, I would leave that to the experts. It seems to be not covered by the RA 10175 (Cybercrime Law) but it seems to be under that Anti Voyeurism Act born after the Hayden Kho mess. That’s the limit of my nit-wit right there. Sorry.

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To clear things:

I am not a USJR student.

I have not watched the video. Nor do I have the link. But I tried to watch it. And caught myself guilty of lust. So I stopped. I watched better videos.

I am not perfect. So are you.

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Condemn the act. Not the person.

Why do we hurt the ones we love?

And so, in response to Mommy’s question, here are my two cents on the matter.

1. To Test Them

I stumbled upon a quote before. It goes:

We try to push away the ones we love

to see who stays no matter what.

It is a sad reality. I too am guilty for this ‘leave-me-alone’ tactics. I don’t really know what’s with some. Pride maybe? or perhaps from watching too much drama on TV. I guess it is the latter. Just one of their melancholic nights added with paranoia resulting from overthinking secondary to being madly in love. Duhh, I don’t have time for that. You are never in any position to test anyone. unless you are a teacher, or a medical technologist, or a psychologist, or a doctor.

But no. Only situations should test you. And Time. Distance as well.

2. To Teach a Lesson

Just like a child beaten for sinning, or fighting with his siblings, or even more disrespecting his parents. The people who loves us often choose to hurt us in order to teach us a lesson. You need a pinch to wake you up from a bad dream. That’s all. That pinch may vary from a simple pinch in the chin to a slap on the face. Remember, this is because they care.

3.  You are Sadistic

No kidding. other than the two mentioned above, I couldn’t think of any other reason. I only promised two cents right? 😀

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How about you? What do you think? Why do we hurt the ones we love?

Footprints on the Floor

 

The landlady is meticulous. It’s part of her habit to always clean everything; that relates to her being a supervisor in room cleaning at a hotel. And she does it in the house.

There are random inspection of rooms: spot checking of how we handle garbage, how we arrange our things, how we do the laundry, etc. We are like armies always alert for inspection, cleaning up everything.

Here comes one time when another boarder from the other room used the CR and the landlady followed next; discovering footprints on the pearly white bathroom floor. The boarder instantly became the culprit. “Res ipsa loquitur.”  (The thing speaks for itself)

He tried to explain it was there when he entered. He was a good boarder and he was living there long before we came.

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The reason why the world is in chaos is not only because of ‘bad’ people doing bad things; it is also by ‘good’ people doing nothing about it.

Sometimes, as  we  claim we are ‘good’, we put a wall to separate us from the tainted ‘bad’ ones. We focus on our ‘goodness’, that by staying near the rotten, we might rot too. We often condemn them for it, pushing them further down, away from goodness. In effect, we somehow let them do worse things not only to others but  to themselves as well.

On the other hand, it also teaches them a lesson. By doing bad, you don’t belong. By doing good, we welcome you. The hard part for the ‘bad ones’ is the time when everyone pushes them away. How could you think clearly and stand up again from the pit you have fallen into when there’s no helping hand to lift you up? Crawling in agony, they may slowly pick themselves up, stonger but with much hostility and indifference to the ones who claim to be teachers of a lesson.

The thing is, we should be more compassionate and empathic, consider their feelings, offer support for change, work with them instead of against them. That’s when there’s a lesson learned. That’s when there’s peace.

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And oh, if you were wondering about the footprints, it wasn’t me!!!

 

 

 

…who got caught. 😉