We learn from our mistakes. But do we really need to make a mistake just to learn?
An old friend of mine texted me last night asking the usual “how do you do?”. I answered in the standard, “Things are going fine.” She replied, “How’s your love life?”. I seldom encounter this question from girls like her so I went on again with my standard reply, “Single and happy.” Then, the follow up question hit me: “Aren’t you looking for one?”
Feeling a little bit defensive [and heated up 🙂 ] I replied, ” Do I need to find it? It will come in God’s time. No rush.” Apart from some of our classmates who already got some babies, others even have two already, I chose to be slow and steady [as I always have been].
My friend was persistent. Maybe a little bit defensive also. Until our conversation reached to a point where she told me: “You also need to have experience, you know. It’s part of learning.”
Concluding this would be another debate night, I replied : “Yes, I agree with you on that. We all learn from mistakes, but it doesn’t mean we should make one for us to learn. 🙂 It’s good to venture out of your comfort zones so you’ll find what you got.”
This girl wont just give it up. She texted: ” It’s good to learn right? Prior experience is important so if you’re on the point when you finally meet the one He [the Lord] has given you, you’ll know what to do.”
Wanting to always have the last word, I replied: “Yup. Learning is important. That’s why I said we should venture out of our comfort zones. My point is, we should be careful…You don’t need to touch a hot kettle and get burned just to experience what it feels like and know its hot. Just my five cents.”
After a good five minutes, she bursted: “I give up. haha You’re still good at pointing out things. You should be lawyer! haha” With that, I guess I won [as if its a battle]. The conversation shifted to the what’s latest update, about career, then goodbye. [No ‘good night, sleep tight’ texts.]
The exchange of texts left me thinking to myself. Have I really learned enough? I suppose I only have few mistakes? Should I have more?
Experience is the best teacher. No doubt about it. First-hand experience will bring out what’s best in you and teach you the best life-changing lessons. But so as second-hand experiences you hear, read, or witness.